Malia Skye: Birth Story...

 
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It's been the most magical week and five days since little Malia Skye entered our world! She fits so seamlessly into our family, as if we've known her all along. I've called her a "unicorn baby" many times because of her sweet disposition and champion sleep habits. Big sister London has been a champ as well. We had no idea what to expect but I must say, we have been so pleasantly surprised and she has exceeded our expectations. Watching London take on her new role with enthusiasm is a big reason why this past week has been as amazing as it has been. I'm just so proud of her. Of course, she has her moments because it is after all a massive transition - but overall, it's been a pretty smooth adjustment :)

I wanted to share Malia's birth story because I've gotten lots and LOTS of questions on Instagram about being induced (i.e. why, how it was, etc.), whether I got an epidural or not (I DID!), if I'm breastfeeding (NOPE!), and more - so I thought I'd put it all here :) 

The Induction

Both of our babies were born on their due dates because we decided (in conjunction with our doctor) that we would be induced. With London, honestly, a lot of it came down to timing and Chris' job. He travels basically the entire month of July, and since London's due date was July 1st, our doctor suggested we be induced. She knew mommy + baby were both healthy at 40 weeks and that I was pretty stressed about Chris being gone so soon after the birth. We were all for it considering we could plan the time/day of induction and plan with our family so they could be here to experience it!

Fast forward to July 25th - which was Malia's due date - and we found ourselves with a planned induction once again. A lot of people asked me why we chose to be induced...and my answer was kind of like "why not?" We had the most amazing birth experience being induced with London and I wanted a similar experience this time around as well. I asked my doctor the same question and she sort of had a similar answer like, "why wouldn't you be?!" I trust her 100%. She is incredible; has been doing this for 30+ years and delivered over 6,000 babies! We absolutely adore her, so when she said we could do another planned induction we were all for it.We were scheduled to check into Brigham and Women's at 9:30AM. When we arrived they took my vital signs, did the necessary paperwork and got us onto the floor pretty quickly! My sister arrived for the fun around 11AM, just after my nurse (who was amazing by the way!) started my IV. I don't know why, but getting the IV started was something I was most nervous about...I think I'm crazy ha! Anyway, once that was in place we just hung out for awhile until Dr. Bunnell (my doctor) came to check on us and run through how the day would progress. We were all so excited to get the show on the road and meet our girl! They started me on Pitocin around 1pm (the same time they started me with Lo!) and from there they kept increasing the drip until come 6pm, my contractions were lasting 45 seconds and about 1 min, 20 seconds apart. 

The Epidural

I waited pretty long (I think) to ask for my epidural and maybe even wish I had asked for it sooner. Holding completely still so they could place the catheter in my back while simultaneously having contractions was less than fun. Not to mention, the resident had a difficult time finding the right "space" and by the end it took prob 20 minutes and I was dripping in sweat. It also took about a half hour for the epidural to kick in and even then, I didn't fully cover the pain. In fact, I started feeling CRAZY pelvic pressure shortly after and called my nurse in around 7pm. My exact quote was "why am I feeling this? I don't want to feel anything!" My doctor came in and checked me and said as calm as could be, "well, I think we could push once and have a baby!" I'll never forget the feeling I got when she said that! I just wasn't expecting it and it was like a huge rush came over me. I instantly started shaking with adrenaline and Chris and my sister were SO excited. We just couldn't believe it all happened so fast! 

The Birth

Malia's actual delivery really was in fact, one push. I pushed for a whopping 7 minutes with London, and this time (according to my doctor) it was 45 seconds and through one contraction. There's no rhyme or reason but my doctor tells me I'm made to have babies...who knew?! Either way, I'll take it! Malia Skye entered the world at 7:13pm weighing in at 7 lbs, 6 oz and measuring 21.5 inches long! She looked SO much like London when she came out with her slanted eyes and squished nose...Chris and I felt like we were having deja vu! Her fingers and feet were so long - we noticed right away and the nurse even measured her foot! It was 4 inches! Ha! She also didn't make a PEEP when she came out. No crying, whimpering, nothing. At first I was worried, but no one else seemed concerned at all, so we just went with it. She didn't actually make a sound for about three hours. Her name is Hawaiian, meaning "calm and gentle waters" and I just kept saying that she totally lives up to her name. I still feel that way 12 days later.

The post-birth snuggles are so magical. I felt like this time around I was able to be so much more present and really soak in the moment. It was beautiful and I will cherish it forever. Every fear I had about making space in my heart for baby number two went completely out the window the moment I pulled Malia onto my chest. It was like I had known her my whole life and she had always been part of our family. She has captured our hearts in so many ways and we just feel so blessed to have two sweet, beautiful girls to love and spoil forever! 

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Thank you all for your incredible love and support! Your messages were read and noted ... and even though we couldn't respond to every single one, we felt them all! It's so fun sharing this journey with you all - especially beautiful moments like these!

xx, Ashley 

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Halfway To Wine: 20 Weeks...

 
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Bumpdate: 20 Weeks

Cravings: French fries, chocolate chip pancakes, orange juice, lemonade, strawberries, oranges

Symptoms: Ligament pain, pelvic pressure, fatigue, slight nausea in the evenings

 

We have had QUITE a week which started out with the news that we are adding another GIRL to our little family of three! We are so super excited...and knowing the gender just makes everything that much more real! I flew solo to Charleston, SC to watch my husbands college basketball tournament. I saw one game, flew back to Boston, watched the semi-final game on TV (which they also won) and ended up booking last minute flights for myself and London to go BACK to Charleston for the championship game! It was a little bit INSANE, but totally worth it. London had the BEST time and even though my husband's team fell short, it was an amazing experience. Traveling with her is just so much fun and she brightened up a pretty miserable day. 

Now back to the pregnancy! We are 20 weeks already...and as the title of this post says...HALFWAY TO WINE! It's so interesting that I never craved wine when pregnant with Lo but this time around - I would LOVE to have a vat of pinot noir. I kind of thought I was carrying a boy because of how different this pregnancy has been from my first. I STILL have bouts of nausea (which I'm so over) and with London I felt great by 10 weeks. So that alone has been much different! My food cravings are a little bit insane as well. I was ALL THE GREASY foods; french fries, cheeseburgers, chicken nuggets, etc! I crave sweets at an all time high too! It's really difficult to ward them off and I try my hardest to make good decisions but sometimes the craving wins out! I do feel like I was much more active during my first pregnancy. Of course, I'm busy chasing a toddler around - but I haven't made time for the gym and have been squeezing in a few workouts here and there at home. I'm hoping that can pick up once the weather gets warmer and we have a chance to get outside for walks! 

Our next appointment is in a few weeks but from here on out they are just quick ones with our doctor. I can't believe we won't have another ultrasound and the next time we see baby girl will be when she's placed in our arms! Ahhh! This pregnancy is going by so quickly - so much so that in just FOUR months we will be ready to welcome her home! That's just wild to me. I need time to slow down a bit. I've been thinking a lot about what having another child means for London. Of course, I know she will love her sister and we are giving her the best gift, but I also know that there will be A LOT of things going on in her little brain and I just worry about it. I'm sure that's normal for all parents who are about to add another baby to their families. I'm working on a post that's pretty near to my heart - a letter so to speak to my "firstborn" and I'm having a hard time getting through it! It makes me really emotional. I can now understand why parents have such a special place in their hearts for their first child. My mom tried to explain it to me once, and I couldn't understand ... probably because I was their third ;) ...but now I get it. They're the baby that makes you a mom...that opens your heart to a love you never knew existed...and you experience every "first" with them. Needless to say, there are a LOT of emotions we are feeling and I'm sure that rollercoaster will continue for the next few months - until baby arrives! Thank you all for following our journey! It's been so much fun to share and document it along the way!

xx, 

Ashley